Dec. 21

Dec. 21

In relationships, keep a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interactions. Dr. Jon Gottman is arguably the world’s expert on relationships. He can predict with 94% accuracy which couples will get divorced after a few interactions with them. He’s good. One of the things...
Dec. 6

Dec. 6

You’re ok, and it’s time to change. The process of growth often holds this paradox. On one level, we’re ok exactly as we are. On another level, we need to make some shifts. When you’re born, there’s no idea of anything that’s wrong with you. That’s your essential...
Dec. 5

Dec. 5

The comfort of thinking something COULD work can keep us from seeing if it ACTUALLY works. I had a friend who finally started meditating after years of talking about doing it. When I asked him what took so long, he mentioned that there was fear that it might not work....
Dec. 4

Dec. 4

“Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past.” -Lily Tomlin Perhaps you’re ready to hear these words, and perhaps you’re not. Wherever you’re at is ok. But at some point, if you’re looking to loosen the shackles of the past, some degree of forgiveness is...
Dec. 3

Dec. 3

When you shut down lines of communication, you lose the potential for truth. This was a spontaneous quote that came to me in a dream. I have no memory of the context or what sparked it, but I woke up with these words resounding in my mind. I didn’t understand it...
Dec. 2

Dec. 2

Acceptance comes when the pain of non-acceptance is greater than the alternative. Acceptance, in all its many forms and depths, can be tough. Our minds don’t want to accept certain realities. Even though we may know we need to accept something in order to move...